hurted people hurt people..

we all have the tendency to hurt back the people that hurt us.. or even worse, we hurt the others after being hurt.. to us that is something we naturally know how to do.. we even have the tendency to justify or rationalise our actions.. however, we forget that the relief or even joy that we get from getting back at the other person is not lasting.. and the worse is we might feel even more empty thereafter..

so what is the right way?

we need to understand why we feel hurt by what the other person do or say.. cos what that person do or say can't hurt us unless we allow it to.. or because of wounds that we are not willing to face.. it has something to do with us and not the other person..

the right attitude to have?

grace and mercy is what we should give to the person.. whether the person wrongs us, hurts us intentionally, persecute us, etc.. cos God gives us His grace and mercy when we don't deserve it.. frankly, none of us deserve anything from anyone, not even God.. we are just trying to justify our actions.. so we really need to be truthful to ourselves..

^"38"You have heard that it was said, 'Eye for eye, and tooth for tooth.' ³⁹But I tell you, Do not resist an evil person. If someone strikes you on the right cheek, turn to him the other also. ⁴⁰And if someone wants to sue you and take your tunic, let him have your cloak as well."

~Matthew 5:38-40~

^"28bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you. ²⁹If someone strikes you on one cheek, turn to him the other also. If someone takes your cloak, do not stop him from taking your tunic. ³⁰Give to everyone who asks you, and if anyone takes what belongs to you, do not demand it back."

~Luke 6:28-30~

^"13Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you."

~Colossians 3:13~

Show grace to everyone..


Love,
Naomi

failure vs regret..

we are all scare of failures

why?

cause it makes us feel terrible inside

so?

we avoid

we give excuses

yet?

we regret it for the rest of our lives cos of what we did not do and did not say

how?

have the right attitude and mentality when you do it

do not always expect a good outcome

if don't get then you run

then you'll never learn

the Catch is?

tried and failed is better than having to regret it cos you will never know it until you do it

PS: it only applies to things we know we ought to do or things that we ought to say out for example showing your care and concern to your love ones, speaking the truth in love to a person you cherish, etc..


Love,
Naomi

suffering...

Jesus took on His cross

went through great sufferings

being crucified

even pierced at the sides when dead

However,

3 days later He resurrected

sitting on the right hand of God's throne

so what am i trying to say here?

look to Jesus' example when you are suffering and you feel like giving up.. remembering that whatever testings or sufferings that we are going through here and now, there is a purpose behind and will eventually be over.. we are able to overcome them just as Jesus overcame death.. cos His Spirit lives in us..

^"42"Father, if you are willing, take this cup from me; yet not my will, but yours be done." ⁴³An angel from heaven appeared to him and strengthened him. ⁴⁴And being in anguish, he prayed more earnestly, and his sweat was like drops of blood falling to the ground."

~Luke 22:42-44~

Jesus was also in great distressed that He prayed to the Father to ask Him to take the cup from Him.. but the difference is He said 'yet not my will, but Yours be done'.. He chose to obey the Father cos He knows what He is going through is for a great purpose and it must be accomplished.. He prayed even more when the Father strengthened Him..

in the same way, in distressed, we should look to God in prayer even more.. seeking Him to understand our situations better.. go through it together with Him.. even as there are doubts.. hang on.. as long as you continue to hang on, you will eventually see the light at the break of dawn..

-Imagining-

you: i feel like giving up, don't know how to go on, why does this has to happen

God: my dear child, hang on!!! you are nearly there.. just a bit more..
I am here.. you can call upon me..

remember that God is your cheerleader, support and strength.. whatever you need, He is sufficient for you..

^"1 The LORD is my shepherd, I shall not be in want.

² He makes me lie down in green pastures,
he leads me beside quiet waters,

³ he restores my soul.
He guides me in paths of righteousness
for his name's sake.

⁴ Even though I walk
through the valley of the shadow of death,
I will fear no evil,
for you are with me;
your rod and your staff,
they comfort me.

⁵ You prepare a table before me
in the presence of my enemies.
You anoint my head with oil;
my cup overflows.

⁶ Surely goodness and love will follow me
all the days of my life,
and I will dwell in the house of the LORD
forever."

~Psalms 23~

i want to give thanks for the brothers and sisters who are still hanging on, enduring and persevering through the race even when it gets so tough.. let's continue to help one another to presevere and finish this race together..

Hang in there!! Jia you!!

Love,

Naomi

contradictions...

life is full of contradictions.. if not of one thing, you would not have gotten to experience the other..

taking examples from the book/movie 'My Sister's Keeper'

if Anna wasn't born to save Kate,

then she would not have had

1) a great sister

2) experienced what she have experienced

3) a family that loves her


if Kate hasn't had cancer,

then she would not have had

1) met the love of her life

2) knew how much her family loves her

3) learned to appreciate the people around her

are you thinking why must this happen to me, why must that happen to me? why not instead think about what can i learn from what happened and have a assurance that whatever that happened is for a better good..

precisely are those seemingly bad situations in our lives that allow us to learn to treasure, to appreciate, to love, to mature, to be a better person, and many many more.. so when you learn to see all these, you will realise the current situation no longer matters..

"²⁸And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose."

~Romans 8:28~

thanking God in all circumstances..


Love,
Naomi

secret of life...

"Purity of heart is to will at one thing."

~Kierkegaard~


^"41"Martha, Martha," the Lord answered, "you are worried and upset about many things, ⁴²but only one thing is needed. Mary has chosen what is better, and it will not be taken away from her."
~Luke 10:41-42~


The secret of life is one thing.

What is that One thing for you?

Love,
Naomi

is He real?

if God is not real

then why people are willing to

1) go the extra mile

2) risk their lives

3) forgo their comforts and go somewhere foreign

4) persevere on when persecuted

for Him?

so what is your stand?

Love,
Naomi

我的天父...

我的天父

他很爱我

他在教我一些事的时候

会在豪无预警的情况下放手

可是在放手的同时

他是非常的心疼与不舍的

但他却更希望我能够明白

跌倒了要学会自己站起来

而不是赖在地上怨天尤人

因为他知道如果他不适时的放开手

我就不会有成长的空间

无法深切体会他要教我的人身哲理

也不会学会真惜身边所有的一切

所以我要在这对他说

谢谢你

我亲爱的天父

你所给我的一切的一切

你所为我做的一切的一切

我永远都不会忘记

天父, 我爱你

Love,
Naomi

jia you!!

sometimes hearing other people sharing about their experiences and story, you will feel much better after it.. cos you realised you are not alone going through what you are going through.. and there might be people who are going through worse things than what you think you are going through.. then you realised that there is no point in wallowing when people who are going through worse are not.. and how fortunate you are as compared to them.. it amazes me that how comfort from God can come in this manner.. but we also need to remember that we all have our cross to carry so there is no point comparing about each's burdens.. it should just open up your mind to the things that are happening around you.. so that your understanding of things will not be so swallow to just wallow in your own world..

let's continue to encourage and spur one another on.. :)

^"13No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it."

~1Corinthians 10:13~

Jia you bro and sis, no matter what you going through..


Love,
Naomi

道歉...

其实你不需要跟我道歉

因为道歉根本就没有用

失去的东西失去了

伤害了还是伤害

道歉并不能让时间倒转

也不能让发生的事情过去

不过既然你跟我道歉了

我接受

~梁慕橙（下一站，幸福）~

something meaningful to share..


Love,
Naomi

paranoia...

We're all susceptible to it, the dread and anxiety of not knowing what's coming. It's pointless in the end, because all the worrying and the making of plans for things that could or could not happen, it only makes things worse. So walk your dog or take a nap. Just whatever you do, stop worrying. Because the only cure for paranoia is to be here, just as you are.

~Meredith Grey from Grey's Anatomy~

there is nothing you can do about the situation or the future cos you don't know what is to come and you have no control over it.. so just pray..

"6Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. 7And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus."

~Philippians 4:6-7~

Stop worrying, let God do His job...


Love,
Naomi