a mini 'debate' with my colleagues surfaced 2 thoughts in me..
1) Is it really rational to side your good friends?
2) It isn't about what people tell you sometimes.. but rather it is about what do you want in a thing sometimes and are you willing to accept the shortcomings of that thing.. as nothing is perfect in this world.. in the same way, it is applicable to other areas of our lives..
one thing is for sure.. you have to make the decision in the things in your own life.. even choosing not to choose is also a decision made.. listening to what your friends have to say can be a good thing and a bad thing at the same time..
so what is the good part of it?
- able to get some information that you may need to make an informed decision
- can give you a perspective of things that you might not have think before
- if this friend is your mentor, he/she can definitely help you understand better of yourself and the situation before making the decision
here comes the bad part
- you can get swayed to make a decision that you think is good for you because your friend is very convincing
- you will always run to people when you need to make a decision as you might think they can make a better decision than you
if you are asking friends for opinions so that you can see the blind spots that you have towards making the decision then definitely it is a must to do so.. we would surely need the opinions of others to help us to make a informed choice.. BUT.. we need to weigh the cost ourselves and then make the decision for we will be the one ultimately paying the price and bearing the consequences.. we need to know how much are we willing to take on so that when difficult times come.. we would not stumble and fall so easily..
definitely, God has to be in the picture as you make the decision.. for He is the One that will help you achieve what you want to achieve as long as it is according to His will..
we all have to carry our own cross daily.. and making decisions is a part and parcel of that..
Weigh the cost and make your own decision..
Love,
Naomi
- able to get some information that you may need to make an informed decision
- can give you a perspective of things that you might not have think before
- if this friend is your mentor, he/she can definitely help you understand better of yourself and the situation before making the decision
here comes the bad part
- you can get swayed to make a decision that you think is good for you because your friend is very convincing
- you will always run to people when you need to make a decision as you might think they can make a better decision than you
if you are asking friends for opinions so that you can see the blind spots that you have towards making the decision then definitely it is a must to do so.. we would surely need the opinions of others to help us to make a informed choice.. BUT.. we need to weigh the cost ourselves and then make the decision for we will be the one ultimately paying the price and bearing the consequences.. we need to know how much are we willing to take on so that when difficult times come.. we would not stumble and fall so easily..
definitely, God has to be in the picture as you make the decision.. for He is the One that will help you achieve what you want to achieve as long as it is according to His will..
we all have to carry our own cross daily.. and making decisions is a part and parcel of that..
Weigh the cost and make your own decision..
Love,
Naomi
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